Lessons of Life from Paint, Mud, and Sandpaper

Last weekend started off a bit rough. All of the rooms in our house were painted, and it was time to paint the closets. Except that I didn’t want to paint the closets. In fact, I didn’t want to do anything except move all of our stuff in and stuff the closets so full that we wouldn’t be able to paint them if we wanted to. I was tired of painting; after all, we’d been at it for 2 1/2 months…

When we first started our painting marathon back in January, Travis wanted to paint every room including all closets and the garage before moving in.  Then, the next several weeks flew by, and we quickly realized that if we didn’t do something, it would be the end of the summer before we moved in! So, we came to a compromise. We would paint the pantry and master bedroom closet (basically, the essentials) before moving in, and we would paint the other closets (linen closet, coat closet, and the other two bedroom closets) and garage afterward. So, I was satisfied with that. I didn’t really think we should worry with painting them in the first place, but after some convincing by him and others, I agreed.

But, suddenly, it was the middle/end of March, and we still weren’t moved in. Every week that passed I was getting more impatient. Then, Travis decided somewhere in there that he thought it would be a good idea not only to paint the pantry and master BR closet before moving in, but that we should take down all of the shelving and replace it with totally new shelving as well. It’s just the perfectionist in him. And I just about had a meltdown. I could just see this taking weeks and weeks, and we would never move in, and what’s the point of painting a closet anyway when you can’t even really see the walls after your stuff is in there?

You see, this painting project has been a real learning experience for us. We definitely have different standards of quality when it comes to work.

Here’s Travis’s thought process: “Do it right the first time; take your time and don’t take shortcuts; buy the nicest stuff, and it will last a long time; it doesn’t matter if you’re painting a closet or the living room, you put the same effort into it.”

And here’s mine: “Do a good job but don’t obsess over the little details that most people (especially me) won’t ever notice anyway.”

You can see how those philosophies don’t exactly hold hands and love each other.

The problem lies in the fact that although I may not notice the little details (like the paint in the closet or the shelving in the pantry), Travis does. And “the popcorn from the pantry will taste better with new shelving up and fresh paint on the walls.” Yes, he said that. I guess that’s what I get for marrying an engineer. It’s all in the little details.

So, how do we get anything done when we work together? Here’s what I’ve discovered:

1. Compromise: Sometimes, it’s just not worth arguing about it, even if I think he’s crazy or he thinks I’m irrational, etc. We meet in the middle, and come up with something that will satisfy (at least partially) both of us.  This is why we aren’t going to paint every closet before moving in, but we did paint two of them.

2. Patience: What’s important to me may not be important to him and vice versa. If it’s that important to him that it will make his popcorn taste better to eat it from a newly renovated pantry, maybe I should just agree to the new shelving and paint. If I take a step back, I realize that it’s going to get done eventually. We will move in sometime this century. And it’s not worth getting upset over the fact that we haven’t moved in yet.

3. Love: We really do make a great team. Yes, we butt heads occasionally…sometimes every weekend. But, in the end, I love that we’re different. We each bring our own mindset and ideas to the project, and when we work together, we end up with a great outcome! I think every room in our house looks way better than it did before we got a hold of it. (That’s a teaser for the upcoming “after” pictures in a few weeks…haha). Working with someone on a big project like this can either be a disaster or a success, and it all depends on your attitude.

I’m glad to say that our house projects have been a success so far! :)

So, here are a few pictures of our recent work before I end this novel…

Here’s Travis’s newest toy (he gets one just about every week…haha). Meet DeWalt, the Cordless Drill:

DeWalt was a lifesaver when we started taking down all of that shelving!

Part of the pantry shelving before we took it down

Dismantling the pantry

Master BR closet before we took the shelving down

Let’s just say we mudded and sanded well over 100 holes after taking all that shelving down. Then, we painted the walls. After this weekend when we put up some new shelving, the pantry and closet will be new-and-improved for sure! Told you we work well together! :)

Tentative move-in day is April 9th. But don’t hold us to it :)